Lefkoe Belief Elimination Process (LBEP)
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The Lefkoe Belief Elimination Process allows people to make lasting changes in their behavior and/or emotions in a gentle yet effective way.
This change process is very focused in nature.
What this means is that we won’t spend weeks or months trying to get at the core causes of your issues. We actually identify the roots of your problems in the first session and then we immediately get to work eliminating these “roots.”
In nearly 24 years of experience working with over 18,000 people in over 30 countries the founders of the Lefkoe Method have determined that almost always the roots of a given problem are a set of beliefs formed early in life.
They’ve created a process that literally unwires these beliefs for good. When you go through them you will actually find that you can’t believe your old belief any more, even if you try!
Also, all the consequences of having the belief will literally disappear. You will feel and behave differently and these changes will last for the rest of your life.
An independent scientific research shows that The Lefkoe Method works and that the changes last. The University of Arizona studied the method by having the Institute work with 36 people who had a fear of public speaking. Each of these people then went on to speak in public without fear. Two years later the researchers followed up with participants in the study. The fear of public speaking was still gone.
Why is change usually so difficult?
A belief is something we think is the truth, a fact that we observed in the world. We think we sensed (saw or heard) out in the world what we believe, which is why beliefs usually are not eliminated even when we are aware that a belief is illogical or self-defeating. When the belief was formed we didn’t distinguish between reality (what we observed) and the meaning (that is, the beliefs) we ascribed to reality. In fact, there is no meaning in the world; all meaning exists only in our minds. But we usually live as if the meaning we have ascribed to events is inherent in the events. It seems to us as if we saw earlier in life that I’m not good enough, I don’t matter, I’ll never get what I want, People can’t be trusted, Life is difficult, and I’m not safe in the world.
What is The Lefkoe Method?
The Lefkoe Method is based on the notion that all of our behavior and much of what we feel is the result of our beliefs. It is an explicit, reproducible technique that allows people to identify the beliefs responsible for dysfunctional behavioral or emotional patterns, and then eliminate those beliefs. When all the beliefs responsible for any given pattern have been eliminated, the pattern disappears.
Moreover, the “evidence” that you offer for a belief usually is not the real reason you believe it. The evidence offered usually consists of recent observations that appear to substantiate the belief. The real source of your beliefs, however, is interpretations of circumstances earlier in life. Fundamental beliefs about yourself and life usually are formed before the age of six. After a belief has been formed, however, you act consistently with it–thereby producing “current evidence” for the already existing belief. In other words, life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because the evidence you present to validate your beliefs usually is a consequence of the beliefs, not their source, challenging the validity of that evidence is not the most effective way to eliminate it.
How does The Lefkoe Method make change easy?
By returning to the experiences that led to a given belief (what we observed or heard) and realizing that the belief is only one possible interpretation of the experiences, in other words, “a truth” rather than “the truth”, the belief will disappear. It will disappear when we recognize there is no meaning in the world, that any given belief is only one possible meaning for what we saw that exists only in our mind.
The elimination of the belief creates new possibilities for action that literally didn’t exist before. The new possibilities that are created by disappearing a belief are not merely different or better ways of doing what was possible before; they literally are possibilities for entirely different behavior that is not possible until the old belief is eliminated.
What type of personal problems can The Lefkoe Method be used with?
The Lefkoe Method has been used with over 1,000 people to eliminate such dysfunctional patterns as eating disorders, chronic depression, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorders, the inability to express feelings, obsessing about what others think of you, defensiveness, workaholism, controlling behavior, never being satisfied, entering and staying in abusive relationships, the inability to make romantic relationships work, procrastination, and negative feelings of fear, anxiety, guilt and hostility.
I understand you think that low self-esteem is only a partial source of most personal problems? What other types of beliefs are involved?
Let’s say you are a child of seven or eight who has created a host of negative beliefs about yourself or life. You are beginning to realize that you are going to grow up and will have to make your own way in life. You are confronted with a real dilemma–albeit an unconscious one: “How will I make it in life if there’s something fundamentally wrong with me or the world?”
Imagine the fear and anxiety you must feel when you experience these two conflicting “facts.” On one hand, you experience that you must make it on your own in life. On the other hand, you have concluded that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you or life that will make it difficult, if not impossible, to make it. Fear and anxiety are unpleasant and painful feelings, so children who have them try to find ways to get rid of them.
In Lefkoe Method sessions, We discovered that people have two basic ways of dealing with the unpleasant feelings that are caused by negative self-esteem beliefs: First, they use alcohol, drugs, food, or other substances to try to cover up the feelings and numb themselves, or to make themselves feel good. Second, they develop survival strategies that help them deal with the anxiety that stems from their negative beliefs. As a survival strategy is formed, the child also forms a belief about that strategy. For example: I’m good enough because… What makes me worthwhile is… The way to deal with a dangerous world is… The way to survive is …
Survival strategy beliefs are based on a child’s observation of what it takes to feel good about himself, to be important, to be worthwhile, or to be able to deal with life. For example: Susan’s parents placed a heavy emphasis on friendships, on what others thought of them, and on impressing people. Susan concluded that the way to survive was to get everyone to like and approve of her. Art lived in a community where the people who were considered important and given respect were in gangs and carried guns, so he chose that as his survival strategy.
One consequence of being run by survival strategy beliefs is that instead of living out of choices and pleasure–doing things because you want to do them–you do them primarily to survive. You experience your survival as dependent on the success of your survival strategy. The need to fulfill the terms of your survival strategy dominates your life.
People who have beliefs that are indicative of low self-esteem are not just criminals, drug addicts, unsuccessful people, or those who suffer from deep depression. Many people with low self-esteem are visibly successful, living in nice homes, with stable families. What distinguishes people is not their self-esteem beliefs, but their survival strategies–the ways they cope with a negative sense of themselves.
Although the dysfunctional behavior people exhibit is usually a direct result of their survival strategy beliefs, the “energy” that drives the survival strategies is the underlying negative self-esteem. Thus, both the underlying self-esteem beliefs and the survival strategy beliefs have to be eliminated. The role of survival strategy beliefs explains why therapies designed only to improve self-esteem rarely produce fundamental and lasting changes in people’s lives.
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No two people are the same. A “cookie cutter” approach to helping you change what you want to change will probably fail. Haven’t you been there before?
I offer a free consultation (in person or by phone) to gather information about your individual goals, needs, and situation to make a better assessment about the number of sessions, tools, and timeframe I would recommend to help you achieve the results you’re looking for, along with the fee options I offer.
My services include coaching (wellness, Positive Intelligence), hypnosis, NLP, EFT, the Lefkoe Method, nutrition education, and other resources and techniques that I feel would best suit your needs as we work together.
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